A few days ago I planned a party for next Saturday for the cast of the show I’m doing. Since then I’ve had several of the cast members come up to me and be very apologetic about the fact that they won’t be able to make it.
It’s gotten to the point where it seems like it will be me and the person hosting the party and MAYBE one or two others.
It makes me laugh to see what I had hoped to be a good cast bonding event slowly deteriorate.
Yet this could just as easily have been something that was a great disappointment and made me sad or angry or frustrated. Many people out there do find themselves experiencing one or more of these emotions when things don’t go as planned.
Why is this?
Because of Hope and Expectation.
When expectations are not met, it can be very frustrating and make us feel very upset.
Luckily for this party I didn’t really have high expectations because I knew this was short notice. I had high hopes, but low expectations.
It’s kind of like being Zen and just letting things be what they will be.
Now some people out there might say that it’s no way to go through life with low expectations of everything, but that’s not really what I am doing. I suppose more specifically I try not to have ANY expectations one way or the other.
Here again, some might say that doesn’t that then mean when things do go your way you aren’t as happy about it because your expectations have been fulfilled? No, not at all. When things do go my way I am trilled and create happiness (from within because that’s the only place it can really come from) to celebrate, but when things don’t go my way I can just as easily say, Oh, well and move on.
So until next time remember:
(and feel free to sing along if you like)
Que Sera Sera
Whatever will be, will be
The future’s not ours to see.
Que Sera Sera